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<\/p>\nIn the “geek culture”, we often see strong women in positions of great power. \u00a0(Wonder Woman, Jean Gray, Black Widow, Catwoman, etc.) We don’t really bat an eye when someone wants to emulate their qualities or dress up as these and many other female characters when they are traditional warrior characters, but how many princesses do you see at conventions? \u00a0Has it ever occurred to anyone that these iconic women may be worthy of emulating? \u00a0I realized after writing a piece for my mom-blog side project, that women, especially geek women… don’t like princesses. \u00a0Oh sure, they like Ariel because she’s a hot redhead in a skimpy top with a tail and they like Pocahontas because she’s all spiritual native chick talking to animals and willow trees and let’s not forget she’s like 7 feet tall with legs that go on for miles, but what about Cinderella? Aurora? Any shout-outs for Snow White? \u00a0Not very likely…. not unless they’re dressed up like the “Legs Avenue” whore versions of themselves so they can chat up all the hot geek boys and celebrities that hang out at the bars down the street. \u00a0So, why is the geek girl so against princesses? \u00a0More specifically, why do geek girls hate Disney princesses? Well, there’s a thing no one wants to talk about but everyone knows it and I want to talk about it because I think it’s important to get this out there and deal with it.<\/p>\n
The reality is, geek girls want to be seen as hard core, sexy yet masculine, kill you in a thousand ways by batting your eyelashes super heroines. NOT as a princess in a pretty gown with a good heart and a strong backbone. \u00a0Never mind that the princess probably died or was near death then defeated (usually by killing) her enemies and did so with a song in her heart and a fan-boy club (including her prince) cheering her on. \u00a0It’s because somehow along the way, princesses got this stigma of being weak baby pussycats with no brains and pretty dresses. \u00a0I’m sorry, but that’s just not the reality of these stories and I’m here to clear the air on that once and for all.<\/p>\n
Princesses are hard core. \u00a0NO, really! They are!<\/p>\n
There is a meme floating around Facebook right now that gets my blood boiling every time I see it. \u00a0I have pasted it below for your reference:<\/p>\n
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I believe this is ANYthing but the case and the reason I get so upset about it, is it feels like these things exist just to put down these iconic figures of childhood and impose some ridiculous, feminist agenda over what is truly a collection of beautiful stories with great lessons. \u00a0People see what they want to see and by seeing such negativity in something so innocent and potentially positive, does a disservice to everyone. \u00a0I understand that people see what they relate to and if they relate to the concept of women being objectified and stupid, that\u2019s what they\u2019ll see before they see the positive lessons. \u00a0If they suffered from a negative love life or a bad family situation where they grew up believing they were worthless, they typically see princesses as frivolous, stupid girls with no sense of self who can only be happy because of their princes.<\/p>\n
I, personally, have a rational head on my shoulders and I am a confident person who believes wholeheartedly that you are what you choose to be. \u00a0No one MAKES you do anything- Whatever you are and whatever you believe- you allow it to be true and have the power to either take control, or you can become the victim and allow media, men, Disney movies or who\/whatever other outside influence is powerful in your life to shape your choices and make your decisions for you. \u00a0It\u2019s YOUR choice and I believe the princesses of the Disney universe embody this ideal of choice and character, \u00a0providing a commanding presence of goodness as a role model in our lives as women.<\/p>\n
So here\u2019s my version of the meme above, with a few more princesses added in just to drive my point home.<\/p>\n
Snow White- Maintain your innocence, purity of heart, your ability to love and don\u2019t lose faith in love- EVER. \u00a0Don\u2019t believe it when people tell you that innocence isn\u2019t beautiful- it is. \u00a0The only people who will say that are the people who lost theirs long, long ago and are bitter old hags inside. Don\u2019t be afraid to love at first sight and don\u2019t be afraid to ask for help when you find life is too difficult to face alone. Your strength is in your ability to love freely, to keep wishing even though the world is dark for you and you’ve seen such a horrible tragedy as your own mother’s death. \u00a0Love and find compassion for everyone, even and especially those who might do you harm- they need your compassion most of all for all their pain. The friends you cherish will return that love with their loyalty to you, till the end because they see your true heart, your pure heart. \u00a0The more you prove it to be real love, the more others will see it too and maybe someday they’ll be brave enough to love.<\/p>\n
Sleeping Beauty- Sometimes people just do horrible things for selfish reasons and hurt people because they\u2019re hurt inside, themselves. Sometimes you\u2019re born in a crappy situation where you have to fight battles that you didn\u2019t start and really, had absolutely nothing to do with you. That\u2019s okay. It sucks, but if you draw on your inner strength and remember you always have an ally no matter how dark things are, or how lost you may feel, you can face the demons holding you back with courage. Sometimes we make mistakes. We give ourselves over to temptation and we lose ourselves in it. Trust that because you are a decent, loving and kind person, the people around you who truly love you, will always do whatever they can can to reach you, pull you back from the darkness and wake you up. \u00a0Just because you have had evil done to you, doesn\u2019t mean you have to fear your life. It also doesn\u2019t mean you have to fight alone. \u00a0Live, dance, sing with abandon and love recklessly knowing you are strong enough to handle it. \u00a0The only people who will ever tell you to do otherwise, are those who don\u2019t have that strength themselves.<\/p>\n
Little Mermaid- Some people are just born in the wrong place. You may wake up one day and realize; \u201cI am nothing like my family and everything I want to be is someplace else! I want nothing they have and I need to find my own path!\u201d \u00a0When that happens, you know there will be resistance. \u00a0People are afraid of change, of what they don\u2019t understand. \u00a0Remember they love you and they put restrictions on you because they are afraid, not because they don\u2019t want to see you happy. \u00a0 The reality is, it\u2019s okay to be an individual in a sea full of schools who all look and move the same. It\u2019s okay to step out of the water into a new, terrifying world and it\u2019s okay to hold onto your dreams and demand they become your reality, even if that means you need to change a few things about yourself. Sometimes changing your body is like making your body truly your own for the first time. \u00a0Whether it\u2019s hair, body art\/modification or letting go of something that used to identify your personality, it\u2019s okay to change when you do it because YOU want to. \u00a0It\u2019s okay to move closer to who you really are by abandoning who you were before. \u00a0Just remember there are dark, angry and vindictive people in the shadows who are always willing to take someone\u2019s passion and use it against them. \u00a0Even when you have been beaten, that doesn\u2019t mean you give up- that means you do whatever you can to get back on your feet and demand the life you want. \u00a0Those around you will be drawn to you and love you, they will fight by your side and become champions for you, not because of what you say or what you look like, but because they see your spirit, your kind heart, your passion and your desire to experience the world in every way possible.<\/p>\n
Jasmine- Even if you grow up in a culture where there are rules about who you are to become and you\u2019ve been told you must honor your heritage by giving up who you wish to be, remember your passion and your individuality is a greater jewel than all the treasure in the world. You alone are the keeper of your heart and you make your own path- you don\u2019t have to live someone else\u2019s dreams. \u00a0Education, compassion and fire of spirit are qualities to be cherished, ignited and given power, never squelched. \u00a0Seek out someone who will love that fire, someone who will encourage that passion- never settle for anything less than you know you deserve and always remember; a prince does not a gentleman make.<\/p>\n
Cinderella- The reality of the world is such that bad things happen to good people, good children, innocent souls are hurt and experience loss that shapes their spirits, even defines who they are as people. \u00a0That doesn\u2019t mean that good things cannot happen, too! \u00a0Don\u2019t lose heart and don\u2019t wallow in despair just because you\u2019ve been dealt a bad hand. \u00a0If you keep gentleness, love and forgiveness in your heart, if you love your enemies, embrace the poor and provide comfort for the lost and afraid no matter how meek they are, love and light will always be drawn to you. If you seek the love and joy in all things and even menial tasks, in dark times when all seems lost, karma might just send a little magic your way. \u00a0Charity, love, healing and compassion, even to the face of evil, is a powerful kind of magic that cannot be broken by hate or destroyed by selfish cruelty. \u00a0Never give up your loving heart for the bitterness of a life not lived. \u00a0Go live that life instead of crying about what might have been. \u00a0Give love charitably to all, even those who would oppress you hoping that one day, they will see the power in forgiveness themselves, and also find healing.<\/p>\n
Belle- Never sacrifice your passion for a caged life just because society tells you that\u2019s what\u2019s best and if you find yourself inside a real cage, use your brain- not your tragedy, to get you out. \u00a0Self sacrifice, passion for life, self-assuredness with an extra dose of confidence will always see you through hard times. \u00a0If you are confident to handle life on your own, you can achieve anything. Those who prey on the unusual and bully anyone who is different can never see the beauty of true individualistic passion for life. Creative ingenuity can sometimes seem awkward but it will always put you ahead of the pack. Contrary to popular society standards, it\u2019s okay and even encouraged to break the mold, step out into the \u201cgreat wide somewhere\u201d and make your own story, before you ever settle for fitting into someone else\u2019s. Your ability to see the world, and people, for who they really are is your greatest strength. Wield that truth like a sword and it can unlock all the magic of the universe.<\/p>\n
Princess Sofia- sometimes we are led into worlds that don\u2019t feel like our own and it feels like we don\u2019t belong. Sometimes we shy away from new things because they are scary and change is hard. Leaving behind things we know and people we love can feel cruel and it\u2019s okay to be angry. \u00a0Just remember, a family is not always who we are related to, but who we know we can count on. Sometimes, people act cruelly because they are hurt inside\u2026 Try to see that hurt, have compassion for it and offer your hand in friendship, not judgement. The power of a princess is not in your home, jewels or gown, it\u2019s in your ability to help people and offer what you have to those in need. \u00a0It\u2019s about relating to everyone, being willing to have compassion for all and taking initiative to make things better in your life and the lives of those around you.<\/p>\n
Rapunzel- Never stop dreaming, never lose your sense of wonder or your passion for adventure. Don\u2019t ever settle for an empty life and always, always defy oppression. Be brave, protect yourself, don\u2019t live in fear and be willing to confidently step out into the world and discover who you truly are. Your worth is not just in your assets, be it beauty, your hair, figure or even your skills. Your worth and measure of character lies within what you are willing to do in the face of evil for those you love.<\/p>\n
Tiana- Sometimes we think we know the way, we see a clear path to our desire and we steamroll toward it with blinders on our whole lives, thinking that goal is all we ever need, we can get it ourselves and once we have that one thing, everything else in our lives will be complete. \u00a0What we often learn however, is that what we want and what we need, are often two very different things and we cannot be all that we are destined to become until we are willing to take the blinders off, remain open to the bumps in the road and take a fork every now and again. \u00a0Be brave enough to show weakness, be strong enough to ask for help and know that your future isn\u2019t always just a clear road with a single, one-way ticket, but sometimes takes a whole army of loved ones to travel with you, fight beside you and give you their hands, their strength and their contributions to make your dreams come true. \u00a0It doesn\u2019t make your dream any less your own, to build it with others. \u00a0Not everything has to be done alone.<\/p>\n
Honorable mention;<\/p>\n
Pocohontas- Enormous physical and emotional strength, ability to join two nations in peace, avert war with her passion and intellect and saved her people from annihilation. \u00a0Sometimes doing the right thing means doing something no one likes. \u00a0Having the courage to do it anyway is what makes us strong.
\nMerida- Willing to accept a lesson with grace, take responsibility for her actions and move forward toward her responsibilities with her own heart and mind at the forefront, while also being able to see that life is more than just about what SHE wants. \u00a0Life is about doing honor to the clan and this cannot begin until you do honor to the Self through hard work, sacrifice and a willingness to do the right thing, not just what feels best.
\nPrincess Ada- Taking on positions of power is scary and it\u2019s easy to want to blame others when things go wrong. \u00a0It\u2019s only through compassion and opening your eyes to the truth that you see we all depend on each other in this world. \u00a0We must always do what we can to help the whole, not just ourselves. \u00a0Taking risks and being willing to look opposition in the eye with strength shows character. \u00a0Being willing to allow others to help you when you need it most makes you strong- not by proving you can do it all alone.
\nMulan- Bravery beyond that of most women in her position, she does the unthinkable and pretends to be a boy to honor her father and keep her family and her country safe. \u00a0She fights, she learns, she never backs down. \u00a0True feminine strength is in our power to love and to fight for that which we love. \u00a0Being unique isn\u2019t always a bad thing- it\u2019s how we choose to handle that uniqueness that matters. \u00a0You can either bottle it up and pretend you\u2019re just like everyone else, or you can join the army and save your country. \u00a0Your choice.<\/p>\n
See, those who only see a bunch of twitterpated, hair-flinging, lovesick girls with nothing but air in their brains, traveling mindlessly toward a man, are seeing a VERY different world from the one I see, the one I believe is the true intention of these tales.<\/p>\n
Princesses are strong. \u00a0Maybe they’re not as “sexy” because they don’t wear skin-tight costumes or go repelling off of buildings, but their sexy comes from a different place. \u00a0A more real place. \u00a0A place that’s actually ATTAINABLE to anyone, not just those who have tons of money and a personal trainer, personal seamstress and a black belt in Kung Fu or superpowers. \u00a0They are kind, loving, forgiving, compassionate, passionate, intelligent, proud, hard working, selfless, giving, resourceful and powerful. \u00a0They fight against evil, they love with abandon, they demand recognition for what they believe in and they passionately go toward their dreams, unashamed and unapologetic. \u00a0They teach our girls to go after their dreams confidently and to always maintain their grace, their loving hearts and their passion for living, even in the face of evil and all adversity.<\/p>\n
A princess must be all of those things and more and I believe any young girl who wants to stand bravely along side any of these icons gets it, but as we grow up, we forget just how powerful those things are. \u00a0It\u2019s not just the hair, the dress or the crown. \u00a0It\u2019s not just talking to animals and finding true love. \u00a0It\u2019s loving the Self and being brave enough to love others and do the right thing against all odds.<\/p>\n
Everything about Disney princesses are qualities I would be proud to see in my daughter and even though they’re not seen as super-heroes and they’re not often anyone’s first choice in cosplay characters, they are still important to our culture and I wish more women would be brave enough to want to emulate them.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s okay to be a princess.
\nAre you brave enough to be one?<\/p>\n
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